John Roop Oldham, aka Johnny Rose, aka Elvis, aka Austin Powers, beloved brother, son, friend, entertainer, limo driver and long-time florist of St. Louis Missouri passed away in his home, Monday January 3, 2022.
John was born September 26, 1953, in Kansas City, Missouri to Jimmy B and Sara Roop Oldham. He was the oldest of 4 children and son of a Church of Christ minister which was the basis of his faith throughout his life. He is survived by 2 siblings, Rebecca Ann Patane of Sonora, CA and James Taylor Oldham of Lincroft, NJ; 1 niece; Sarah Rose Patane and 2 nephews; Dustin James Sims, Mitchell Burke Oldham.
John was a bright shining light in this world. Sharing his love and enthusiasm for life was his mission every day. He was generous to a fault and would give everything he had to help someone else in need even if he didn’t have much to give. He did not have a lot of money throughout his life, but he was rich with love, faith, friends and family every day on this earth. As many have said, “John never met a stranger”.
He was gregarious, energetic and oh so stubborn. John did not like things to be without emotion or just to exist or be “normal”, he always needed to infuse something to spice up the moment through song, dance or an unpopular opinion, whatever was required to create the spark. On our parents 40th wedding anniversary dinner at Aliotos in San Francisco, a high-end seafood restaurant right on Fisherman’s Wharf, our entire immediate family was together, which was rare in itself. We had just finished a wonderful meal and family communion together. John asked me if I thought it appropriate in the middle of the restaurant to start singing a song to our mother. I said I did not believe it was the right time or place but of course right as I finished my sentence he stood up and sang “You are the wind beneath my Wings” loud and proud with an encore of “New York, New York”. I thought my dad and my sister were going to die of embarrassment on the spot. Dad almost dropped his newly filled coffee about halfway through the song out of his shaking hand. Dad was not the biggest fan of John’s voice, but I have to say it did improve over the years. My mom was very flattered and loved it because it was her oldest child who she adored! He did receive a standing ovation from most of the other diners. It was just one of many memories he gave our family and went on to make a career of making memories for others at times of celebration and sadness.
John is now reunited with our mother and father, and our brother, Paul David Oldham, our Uncle George Oldham and all our grandparents, and countless loved ones in heaven. Our loss is their gain. John, may your soul be at peace in your eternal life with God. We miss you and your light here!
Special thanks to all of John’s friends and extended family in St. Louis for all these years who have loved and cared for him as your own. We did not get together enough as a family, but we always knew he was in a place that he loved and that was filled with people who loved him.
We will celebrate John’s life with family and friends at 10151 Gravois Road, St. Louis, MO 63123 (www.kutisfuneralhomes.com/locations/), Thursday, January 13, 2022 from 5pm-7:30pm. There will be a visitation time from 5-7pm and a remembrance service at 7pm for those who would like to share their love and memories of John together.
John’s ashes will be laid to rest with his mother and father at Brigadier General William C. Doyle Memorial Cemetery in Wrightstown, NJ.
Donations can be made in John’s name to No Kid Hungry, www.nokidhungry.org